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Monday, July 21, 2014

A Murmur, An Echo, A Waiting Game

For those of you I have talked directly to, for those of you who follow me on facebook, and for those of you who just don't know, here is an update on Holly... from the beginning.

The day after Holly was born the doctor was doing her usual check up - ensuring that everything was in tip top shape to send her home with us.  While listening to her heart, the doctor heard a murmur.  She told us this is quite common, that many babies have this murmur and that it usually clears itself up.  To be on the safe side, the doctor asked us to stay another night.  We did.  Upon a second evaluation the next day, the murmur was still heard and, again, to be on the safe side we were sent to St. V's to have an echo-cardiogram performed.  So we packed up our hospital room, drove an hour to our appointment, sat there for two hours while over 200 pictures of Holly's heart were taken.  Then finally we were on our way to home a family of five.

A few hours later the cardiologist called.

Holly had a PDA, patent ductus arteriosus.  Basically it is a hole in the heart that helps with blood circulation before babies are born.  Every baby that is born has this hole.  In most cases, it closes a few minutes after birth.  Sometimes a few hours.  Occassionally a few days or weeks or even months.  By the time the cardiologist called he was certain that the hole had all but closed and was not a concern.  However the echo picked up something else.  Holly also has a condition called Pulmonary Valve Stenosis - a narrowing of the pulmonary valve which means the heart has to work harder at pumping blood to the pulmonary artery (which takes blood to the lungs). 

On a scale of 0 (meaning there is no problem) to 70 (requires immediate surgery to fix the narrowed valve), Holly was a 35.  The cardiologist explained that she was in no immediate danger and that this condition has three scenarios.  1. It gets better.  2. It stays the same.  3. It gets worse.

So what do we need to do for Holly?

Wait.  Wait three months, repeat the echo and go from there.

So three months later we head back down to St. V's and repeated the echo.

Once again he called back that very day to let us know that the stenosis has not changed and that we will need to wait another three months and have the echo repeated again.  However the echo reveled that the PDA, the hole, had not closed yet.  Still common but now will be on the doctors watch list.

Another three months later we make the drive to the hospital and repeat the echo.

This time there was a change when the cardiologist called.  As far as numbers go, Holly was still at the 35 midline stage however the valve has begun to thicken.  He wasn't entirely sure why, it is something we'd have to wait and see what is going on at the next echo.  And we learned that the PDA still had not closed.  Still semi-common but again we'd have to wait and see what the next echo has to say.  But a decision to do something would have to be made if it doesn't close soon.

So we waited another 5 months and repeated the echo... again.


This time when the echo was performed Holly needed to be sedated.  She was getting too big, moving to much, didn't have enough patience while the 30 minute procedure was performed.  And WOW.  I can tell you that putting medicine up a child's nose is NOT an easy task.  She fought with every last ounce of energy she had.


As expected, the cardiologist called us that night.  Problem one.  The PDA was still open.  At this point in time, this hole needs to be closed.  It is not a life threatening hole but with the extra blood flow from this hole she will tire more easily as essentially her lungs would have too much blood in them.  He explained that a coil would be place in the hole to help pull it shut.  Its a simple out patient surgery.  No worries.
  


Problem two.  The valve, which had begun to thicken before, was thickening even more.  This potentially could be from the extra work it does due to the extra blood flow from the PDA.  The only way to know the cause of the problem is to first fix the PDA.  Again he explained that it is not life threatening but that we should get this done ASAP.  As in May or June.  However, the first consult day the surgeon had was July 16th.  We'd just have to wait it out.


Finally the big day came -the meeting with the surgeon.  Even through Holly's blood curdling screams the surgeon was able to hear the murmur which was so pronounced he said it sounded like a washing machine in her chest.  A simple coil fix would not be an option.  He showed us a picture of a plug (to me it looked like a sewing machine bobbin) that he would place in the hole and hold it there until enough blood had flowed through a mesh part in the middle that would then being to clot and hold the plug in place and he can let go.  At that point in time he will evaluate the pulmonary valve.  If he feels that the thickening was caused by too much blood flow, he will then take a balloon into the valve and blow it up to stretch the valve to a more normal size and our days of echos and cardiologists will be over.  If he feels there is another underlying issue for the narrowing of the valve, then he'll leave it alone and we'll continue our wait and see game.     


Now what do we have to do?  Well... we have to wait.  I called to schedule the surgery that same day but they did not have the anesthesia's schedule.  I gave them the dates that did not work for us for August and September and now the ball is in their court.  I sit and wait for them to call me back.  


But its a good thing we have all this waiting time on our hands.  It gives us a chance to file financial paperwork, apply for the many help options out there and wait to hear back.    


Until then, life continues as normal.  

Sunday, June 15, 2014

TKO

What do you do when your husband leaves you for almost 72 hours AND takes the children with him?

You clean out the game closet, 

empty the fridge and freezer and give them a good scrubbing,


go strawberry picking, 


mow the lawn without having to stop numerous times to pull sticks out of one year olds mouth,


prune your beloved weeping cherry before your husband attacks it,


get Olaf ready to cut out and paint for a birthday present,


have a cup of coffee at 10:30pm because you don't have to go to bed at a decent hour because there are no children at home to get you up at an insanely early hour,


finally get around to drawing that 'Saving for Disney' chart,


catch up on a lot of movies (still not sure how I feel about Man of Steel),


go through the drawers of the fast growing baby of the family,


watch History channel.  All. Weekend. Long.


go over and over your budget and update your envelopes (sacrifice now, good things later, sacrifice now, good things later, sacrifice now....),


make prizes for work,


get every piece of laundry in the house washed, dried and put away (this never happens),


and get some painting done, 



I ate seafood all weekend, paid bills, filled out some financial aid paperwork, got all the dishes done, took a mid evening nap, ran out to the store for the one thing I forgot just because I could, made cookies, and even went to work on Saturday.  So many weights were lifted off my shoulders and that is what I call a
 Total Knock Out Weekend.

Friday, June 13, 2014

Explain this...

The child can't walk yet.

BUT

She sure can scale a slide with ease.


Thursday, June 12, 2014

A happy, happy lady

Know what it takes to make this girl happy?

Manure.

Manure and a ton of dirt.


A helpful, handy hubby and son helps too.


And a rain barrel?


Well that's like icing on the cake.


Wednesday, June 11, 2014

Happy to report

This, my friends:


is the last empty formula container that I will ever put into the recycling bin.  

Can you hear my wallet singing??

Tuesday, June 10, 2014

Pure and simple beauty




My Mothers Day gift - 
a wonderful greeting every time I come home.

Monday, June 9, 2014

Thats right, Jake

This conversation happened weeks ago but is relevant anytime.  

"HEY MOM!" 


"Today is a new day!"



Thats right, Jake, it is.  

Lets enjoy it!

Sunday, May 11, 2014

Happy Mothers Day

As a mother its always wonderful to hear comments about how good your children are, how helpful they are, how caring and considerate they are.  Its compliments like those that remind us we are doing something right in this world with those children even though on the inside we're screaming "Well they why can't they act like that at home?!"

But its the completely random moments, the words from the mouths of babes, that is the true inspiration and motivation to keep doing what we are doing.  That our lectures aren't falling on deaf ears and that actions speak louder than words. 


 

Happy Mothers Day to all of you women out there.  Don't forget that you are a role model no matter your stage in life.


Saturday, May 10, 2014

Let it begin

In case you weren't aware, Christmas is on my brain.

A lot. 

Like 365 days a year, 24/7.  

But maybe even more than that.  

So when Bree started begging me to make her a blanket like Holly's, I began a mental Christmas List of ideas for her with a quilt being at the top of the list.  And so it begins.

Homemade Christmas 2014



Dear Lord Almighty,
You know my daughters wants and desires more than I do.  Please guide my hands in creating the most beautiful quilt she's ever seen.  Help her to know in time the amount of stress, frustrations and tears went into sewing, ripping apart, placing, replacing and shifting around of materials to find the "right" pattern all in the name of love.  And let the joy on her face Christmas morning tell me that it was worth every minute and drop of blood shed.
Amen

Monday, May 5, 2014

Ugh...

Yeah, it was that kind of Monday.



Glad its almost over.

Tuesday, April 8, 2014

Saving my piece of mind

Sometimes in life you have to do what soothes your soul....

to do something that saves what piece of mind you have left...

to do something so simple and laid back that it reminds you to slow down and relax...

to do what feels right...


.... no matter how much your husband complains about stiff towels.

Be happy I'm not hanging your underwear out there.  

Wednesday, April 2, 2014

Beauty Queen

Just chillin' out waiting for some dental work to be done!


Happy Wednesday!

Tuesday, April 1, 2014

A New Start

Sometimes you are just so overwhelmed with everything that needs to be done, should be done, waaay past overdue to be done, that you just don't know where to start.


That's me and my relationship with blogging.


So much I need to catch up on, and someday I hope to, but for now I just have to start somewhere.


May 2013 
Bree's Preschool Graduation




December 2013
Jake's Preschool Christmas Program


What a difference a few months can make!


Wednesday, January 15, 2014

Fred - Days 5 & 6 & 7

Day Five
In the shower for good reason

(I cannot find a picture of this day.  Fred was in the shower clinging to the kid's pump soap and on the shower was written "Stepped in reindeer poop.  Ewwwww...."
Day Six
Sitting in a cabana on a beach

(I cannot find a picture of this day and I even had to reconstruct the cabana to take the stupid picture.  So frustrating.  Anyways... I built a beach cabana out of the kid's mega blocks and dumped our bag of sand from the outer beach underneath it.  I also dug out some beachy Barbie items (like chairs, thermos and beach towel) to set around him and left the note:

What a heat wave!

At 59 degrees, why do you wear a coat?

*hee, hee*

Guess I’m not at the North Pole anymore, am I?  Up there the average temperature is NEGATIVE 34 degrees.

It takes special people like us elves, reindeers and, of course, Santa to withstand that kind of bitter cold. 

Even though 59 degrees feels like a day on the beach to me, you better listen to your parents and wear your coat!


Fred

Day Seven
Making it a White Christmas for us




It doesn’t feel very festive with all this warm weather.  I tried to bring snow from the North Pole back with me but it began melting somewhere over Michigan.  So I came up with the next best thing.  PAPER SNOWFLAKES!!  Tell your mom she may want to add coffee filters to her grocery list!

Tuesday, January 14, 2014

Patiently Waiting?

She's in her chair.  Her bib is on.  She's staring at her daddy, patiently waiting for him to serve her dinner....


Or maybe not...


I love when they fall asleep sitting up.  So darn cute.

Monday, January 13, 2014

Twins?

Bree at almost one year old:


Holly almost 8 months old:


Its undeniable.  They are sisters.

Thursday, December 5, 2013

Reintroducing Holly Jacquelynne Dominique

I think when I left you last Holly looked something like this:


Or maybe this:


 

Well I'm happy to report she's growing!!  And mighty fast too!

Snoozing in her stroller at Shipshewana this summer.

Snoozing, again, at Grand Rapids.

Wide awake at Imagination Station.

She even made it to her first Detroit Tigers game at less than a year old!

Spending lots of time on her belly whether she like it or not.


Jacob was very excited when she started grabbing at toys.


Big sister Bree still willing to help out.

Bright eyed in the morning.


Just getting so big.

With the weather turning colder, the cats came in for the first time since this spring and finally got to meet the newest member of the family. 


Sitting up, being fed... its all so much work.


Big brother Jake sharing his blanket, making sure she's warm enough.

Getting ready for her first taste of cereal.

"What the heck is happening?!?!"

Classic falling asleep in her walker and yes that is drool all over her shirt.



Watching her family carves their pumpkins and somehow ending up with pumpkin on her face.
 
Annual family Halloween picture.

Snoozing at Bree's swimming lessons.

Bath time!

"Help me, Momma!"

Watching Bree blow out her birthday candle lighter.

Most recent picture - Getting pulled around in a box by big sister. 
 
At this point in time Holly is:
 
18 lbs 13 ounces
 
28 3/4 inches long
 
Eating squash for dinner
 
Has two teeth
 
Can roll over from back to front
 
Can mostly sit up on her own
 
Attempts to wiggle her way forward to grab at toys
 
Has gotten her butt up in the air like she's going to crawl
 
Is growing up WAY too fast!